If you’re looking for a way to stop this behavior, you grab them by the scruff of their neck. Don’t worry, it doesn’t actually hurt the cat. But it does trigger senses in them that they’re being disciplined. So you grab the scuff of their neck, and act like your wrist is hurt. (the one they were biting/clawing, not the one you’re using to grab the scruff of their neck).
Once they realize they’re hurting you, and also realize you can grab them by the scruff of their neck, and are therefore more powerful than them, they’ll stop doing that.
Of coarse, this is also assuming you’re being a good cat parent to begin with. I see so many videos online titled “Cats go crazy” or something similiar. They aren’t going crazy. Their humans are usually doing some shit to repeatedly piss off their cat. And eventually the cat says “FUCK THIS!!!” and lashes out.
As long as the cat routinely feels safe, and loved with you, the scruff thing works. If your cat feels unwelcome in it’s own home, yes, it will lash out.
Also don’t play fight with a cat, especially a kitten using your hand. If you want to play fight use a stuffed animal or something. Teach them from an early age that human hands are not toys.
My cat would be really confused and probably a bit frightened at this point if I tried to roughhouse with her using my hand but if I get her “battle buddy” stuffed animal out it’s on.
OOOOH! Yes. That’s another good point that I never even thought about. I just naturally never used my hands, because I don’t like it anyways, but I always used a feather on a stick/string.
Another thing I never use is laserpens. I used to. I feel bad that I ever did. It’s fun, but then you learn that cats play is only stimulating their hunting drives. And since they can catch the feather on a string, they feel a sense of satisfaction for having caught it. Whereas they can’t catch a red dot. So never catching it apparently gives them PTSD. They feel depressed that they can’t be good hunters if they can’t catch the red dot.
If you were using both, it was probably okay. The cat quickly learns the red dot is a lie and either decides not to chase it, or decides it’s good for a bit of pouncing and then grabs a different toy to fight or a snack of kibble to bite.
Depends on the cat too. I’ve got one right now that only wants to chase, not catch. He doesn’t care about catching the feather on the string, or the toy that I throw, he just wants an excuse to go zoom.
It’d be nice if he could figure out how to fetch though. I’ll throw a toy, and he’ll go racing after it, but then when he gets to it he just comes back to me so I can throw another one.
Play fighting is fine, they just need to learn claw control. Recoil and stop play when you get clawed. I’ve got three cats here I can wrestle with without getting a mark on my hands or arms. A long thick jumper they know is safe, but bare skin they know is not for claws. It’s so well learned that even when you need to do some maintenance or intervention they don’t like, they will not claw you. Like washing diarrhea out of their fur, or some emergency medical intervention.
At least snip their nails ;-;
I would often wrap an old sweater around my hand to do this with my old cat. When he was really into it I could pick him while he was still attached to my sweater hand.
Hands aren’t toys! (At least in my household)
If the cat does that, it’s because it doesn’t actually understand that it’s hurting you.
Start making a big “YELP” and clearly show that you are in pain when it does it, and it will gradually start to be more gentle.
It doesn’t understand that you don’t have fur that protects it the way it does.
Can confirm this works, unless he gets too excited my cat is very careful about keeping his claws retracted. To the point that one time he actually slapped the absolute fuck out of my leg, that actually made a slap sound and stung a tiny bit from his pawpads slapping me, without leaving a claw mark. Chaotic little beast.
This is the way
i don’t come here to get called out lik this 🫠
You need to get help. Despite what you may think you deserve a loving relationship with someone who doesn’t hurt you.
Fuk all this good advice. Rock on w your kitty. Looks like fun.
My rescue cat (2 years in October) does this with my wife. The exception being, once the cat ‘catches’ her, it’s a half second of confusion then lots of licking.
Someone pointed out how me saying it was my fault my cat scratched and hurt me sounded like a textbook abusive relationship. Is there a way to unlearn things?
This is a product of both participants and a behavior that can be changed pver time.
I’d say this is PvP, not PvE.
