Most people here (who didn’t grow up in the US 50+ years ago) wouldn’t give negative connotations to the software’s name. I’m on the side that it is well divorced of an ableist meaning but that’s where the disagreement lies and some people are making a big fuss over.
Should we stop using words like taser and amok as well for having historically racist associations despite being divorces of those meaning? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tom_Swift_and_His_Electric_Rifle
Our language is littered with more “land mines” that we realize if we want to make land mines out of them.
I used both for years but always preferred weechat with the nicklist enabled and at the top, so that it didn’t break urls or selecting multi-line text. Although the nicklist feature is moot for huge irc channels the ui and user experience is overall better with weechat in my opinion.