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  • Imagine a girl you like putting a hand on your shoulder, looking into your eyes, saying some gentle word I don’t quite remember due to being mesmerized by those eyes, and you know what I did? I just looked back uneasily for a few seconds, then nervously took her hand off my shoulder, shook it a bit, released it and awkwardly smiled. (That even wasn’t her last attempt to make me happy against my best efforts ; ended bad anyway.)


  • There are many things further down the road to go wrong with attractive popular girls. 2 most catastrophic cases in my life are with those such as them.

    Admittedly I’m the one who mainly failed them due to misunderstandings and passiveness, but when a girl (being all that popular) is used to boys being rather active and competitive and social, and then you are here just cause she happened to like your looks, this may end painfully, for you more than for her.

    There are also cases from the post, only I may have noticed, just wouldn’t risk losing an existing good friendship for possible romance.









  • Back then pick-up artists were still a major thing, so I learned and then had to unlearn all that bullshit.

    Oh. Thank dear god I never tried.

    However, things won’t get better if we’re treating young men as poor, helpless victims of society

    They are usually victims of their own parents, who may have too differing behavior from what is common average (say, example 1) both asexual and thus treating nonverbal communication as something not very hard or important, and thinking that you’ll just learn it, or, example 2) too sexual, like, sorry, one of the parents being an ex-escort and thus their child incorrectly measuring the signals sent, or, example 3) both parents having grown with their mother only or with little attention from their father, thus again not learning the skills of communication for men, one can imagine other examples).

    instead of treating them like, you know, men, and telling them to take responsibility for their lives and online habits

    Responsibility is fine for most, not knowing what to do is a different matter.

    You’re not a victim, because you still have the power to change yourself.

    That’s a philosophical question. You may have noticed that what you eat and how you exercise physically and what news you hear and what people tell you all affect very much what you think and how. So whether you can consciously change yourself to some intended end is, again, a question.




  • Well, then the solution is abolishing the law making these loans so easy. It will make things easier for students themselves (only after a transient process, though, which itself is going to be hard - but that can be softened by, say, abolishing it gradually, for different categories of students).


  • I’m not from the US, I think I’ve heard that banks are obligated to give those loans with some characteristics?

    It’s going to cost much less if getting a student loan becomes much harder, because universities still need people paying.

    If anybody can get a loan, the cost becomes inflated.

    Just a thought.




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    1 year ago

    You are a complete idiot.

    I was condescending to a person insufficiently intelligent or humble, that is, you.

    Natural languages are ambiguous, so when somebody better than you misreads what you wrote three times, it’s your fault and if you also behave in such a way, then it’s you who is a complete idiot.

    Other than that, I don’t know in which stable you’ve been bred.