I never thought about it before but I use upstream and downstream without much though. For my personal devices and containers I use Fedora but when it comes to servers and VMs I use Debian for its stable nature.
I also run Linux mint in my homelab with pcie pass though so it functions like a normal desktop.
I keep going back and forth between Xubuntu Minimal and Fedora. Im just tooling around on a $38 Lenovo Chromebook, which has only 16GB of flash storage (soldered of course). Fedora has the smaller footprint, and runs pretty smooth. Xubuntu Minimal is, well, minimal so it is pretty snappy. Xfce is where it’s at for me.
Sometimes having so much choice can feel like a hindrance when it comes to trying to find a district that checks all of our boxes.